Recently I was told that you are the average of the five people you hang out with the most. Which really made me stop and think about all the people I tend to attract as well as those whom I hang out with on a regular basis. I realized that, in many ways, I’m a pretty lucky guy because I have a great core group of friends, associates, and family that tend to be mostly supportive.

A circle of supportive people is one of the most powerful groups you can have in your life. With the right circle, you can get the motivation and understanding that you need to build your self-confidence and accomplish your most cherished dreams.

Lately I’ve been mentioning to you about having some new supportive people in my life and I can’t tell you how grateful I am to be spending time with these folks. They have been helping me achieve clarity and giving me the loving kick in the rear that I’ve been needing for so long. Having a support team — and I’m not just talking about a VA here — is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself.

Think About Who Supports You

It may sound simple, but few people really think about which of their friends, family and associates are supportive and which aren’t. You may have friends that you’ve hung onto for years simply because you have a history together, even when that friend isn’t supportive. This is counterproductive and can lead to not only a toxic friendship that does more harm than good, but can wreck your self-esteem as well.

There’s not a whole lot we can do about our family – we’re kinda stuck with them, like it or not — but to gather friends and associates who are truly supportive, take an honest look at each of them and see whether they measure up when you need support.

The reality is that there may be people that you need to cut loose in order to cultivate a supportive circle.

Meet New People Who Share Your Values

If you don’t have many supportive friends, it’s time to make some new ones. Join a civic organization or the Chamber of Commerce, do volunteer work or support a cause that will allow you to meet people who share your set of values. Join a mastermind group. Get yourself a coach. With these values in common, you can meet people who understand you and will support you when you need it. You’ll each have a common point of reference and can use it to connect to each other.

Talk to People In Your Situation

Whether you’re a new mother or a recent retiree or a new business owner, other people who understand your current situation are more likely to be supportive than those who don’t understand it.

This is especially true for entrepreneurs and the self-employed. Folks around you – and unfortunately this often means spouses, partners and other family numbers – likely can’t see the value in what you are doing and usually encourage you to go out and get a real J.O.B.

While you can’t get rid of these people – short of divorce or murder – you can simply choose to not engage them about your business. Just don’t talk about it with any of them. If anyone asks, simply tell them that things are going great and thank them for asking.

But there are usually a lot of opportunities to hang out with other entrepreneurs and business people and you would be wise to seek them out.

So, to meet people with a similar life or business experience, join a local club for people like you. Look online for local clubs or better yet, start one of your own. A group of people who understand your experience on a personal level can not only offer you support, but you will also be well equipped to give it to others. Your circle of friends and business associates will be there through your ups and downs and will always understand the problems you share.

Meet Regularly

It’s important to keep your circle of friends close when you need them. To keep the group functioning well and being supportive of one another, find a way to meet regularly, even if it’s just once a month over coffee. You can ask for the support you need and your associates will know just how to support you. Always be sure that you ask them how you can support them.

Make a List of What You Want in a Friend or Business Associate

You know that you want your group of friends to be supportive, but how will your circle provide that support? Look for friends who are sympathetic, caring, unselfish and who have a sincere need to connect with others.

You likely have other traits that you want to see in your friends and associates. Make a list and look for people who meet your criteria. With just the right mix of people, you can create a circle that will provide just the support you crave.

Just remember, you can’t sit at home behind your computer and find all the support you need. Get out and meet people.

All the best,

P.S. Speaking of support, if you’d like to learn about joining my first ever mastermind/accountability group, send an email to me at mmprivate @ and I’ll email you back some details. (No obligation for asking.) This will be a very small group, no more than six people, who will meet regularly over the phone to lend support to each other and to mastermind together. The first group will start in July, and if I have to host several groups to accommodate everyone, I’ll do that. I’m calling this my “Inner Success Circle for Soul Proprietors.” It will be fun and well worth your time.

P.P.S. Sorry about this, but if you sent an email to my private email address (see above) sometime over the last few months and you didn’t hear back from me, it’s because I didn’t receive your message. I just found out that that email address has not been working properly. And here I thought nobody cared enough to send anything to me at that address. But, the problem is now fixed. I set this up because I thought it would be foolproof, but I guess nothing is foolproof. Ha! Nobody sees this email but me, so you can share anything you like.

P.P.P.S. So how about you? Do you have a supportive group of people that surround you? If so, how did you find them? If not, what action will you take now to find that support? Please use the comment area below to share your stories.


Marty Marsh PhotoMarty Marsh is a Soul Proprietor (and so are all of the nice folks who follow him online). He’s also a cross-platform marketing strategist who will help you integrate a variety of marketing strategies and tools into the marketing of your soul-centered, heart-based business or healing practice so that you can attract more of your perfect clients. He is skilled at helping you Get The Word Out About Who You Are and What You Do and Mentoring with Marty means you build exactly the kind of business that makes your heart sing and allows you to serve more people with your expertise. Marty is also a marketing materials magician. Read more blog posts, covering a wide variety of marketing, business and productivity topics on this site. More good stuff here.


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