Today I’m busy packing my suitcase and getting ready for another journey to Charlotte, North Carolina to continue my work with Suzanne Evans and her team of dynamo coaches.
While these trips are anything but relaxing — the work is intense but very gratifying — I do find it is always great to get away from the “office” — to get out of my element once in awhile to allow myself to think a little more clearly.
If you haven’t done that lately, you might schedule a day soon that gets you out somewhere else and away from your computer. Maybe the coffee shop, maybe the library, maybe a nice park, or the beach. Just get out.
Try just “being” for a change. Don’t read, don’t look at your computer. Just “be.”
I was having a visit with a friend the other day and he was telling me that he had been immersed in self-help books and CDs trying to figure out what is “wrong” with him, to the point that he was making himself even crazier, not better.
And then he got some good advice from his sister: “Stop with the self-help books already and do something that is just mindless and fun.” Very good advice.
That’s something I tend to do, too. Get so immersed in self-help and business-related books and programs that I forget to just let that go and “be.” So I’m trying to do more of that myself.
But all of this talk about self-help reminded me that when I graduated from high school back in 1974, I received my first self-help — self-development, if you will — book when I was given the I Dare You Award at my graduation ceremony. I felt very honored.
The award consisted of not just the recognition that I got, but also this wonderful little book by William H. Danforth called “I Dare You.” The gist of the book and the award was that this group of school administrators really believed in me, and believed that I would go on to create great things in my life, and they were “daring” me to take up the challenge.
As I think back over my life and all the mistakes and wrong turns, and wrong-headed decisions I’ve made, I find that I do a pretty good job of dwelling on those things — beating myself up — and forgetting all about the good decisions I’ve made and all the right-headed decisions I’ve actually made. Being gentle with oneself is advice I give to friends and clients all the time but rarely take the same good advice for myself.
Are you like that? Well, I’m here to remind you that you are wonderful, that you are smart, and that you are loved. For proof, just go look in the mirror.
I loved both the book and the movie, The Help, and was particularly moved by the character, Aibileen Clark, the maid whose primary responsibility in the family for whom she worked was to take care of little Mae Mobley. Aibileen saw it as her duty to instill in this child a high level of self-worth and self-esteem, and she did that by reminding the child every single day that, “You is kind, you is smart, you is important.”
Those words serve as such a poignant reminder for me that I wrote them down and have them hanging nearby so I can remind myself of those very things. You might want to do that, too, to remind yourself of what I already know to be true about you and that is that “You is kind, you is smart, you is important.”
Have a great weekend and a stellar week coming up. Start each day with a reminder that you are important to somebody else and then show up as your very best self.
If you’d like to add to this discussion, please do so in the comment section below. I learn so much from you that I always want to know what you’re thinking.
All the best,
With love and a hug,
P.S. I’m going to be doing something that I’ve wanted to do for a very long time and since it keeps nagging at me, I figured I better do something about it. And with encouragement from my friend and fellow law of attraction teacher, Pamela Hollister, I’m forming a Law of Attraction and Master Key System study group which will meet at least once a month for sharing, learning, and support as we navigate through our lives. If you’d like to be on the notification list for when we get this group going (it will be free), visit here and add yourself to the list: https://martymarsh.com/everyday-loa/
P.P.S. My friend, colleague, and mentor, Elizabeth Hagen just sent me a copy of her wonderful new book, Confidence: Now Is Your Time, and even though I just got it yesterday, I’m loving it already! I’ll tell you more about the book when I’m completely finished with it, but for now, if you’d like to learn more about this treasure, pay a visit to Elizabeth at http://elizabethhagen.com/home-office-organization-products